Ken Page wrote a book called Deeper Dating that is worth a read if you are ready to zone in on an intimate relationship that speaks to your soul. He re-positions what we might think of as our "weaknesses" or the areas where we are most sensitive and calls these our core gifts. For example if you feel particularly sad when things don't work out in a relationship, this indicates your capacity for love is great and eventually, a person who respects and honors your ability to offer deep and abiding love will be drawn to you. He recommends using a journal for a few days and writing about the things that most touch you, both things that hurt your heart and things that fill your heart. Somewhere in those intersections, a portal may open that shows you the version of you who loves in a wise and healthy way. Showing up from that authentic place may give you a new experience of being attracted to someone who truly inspires you and sees the beauty and depth that you offer. It also will be more obvious when someone is not honoring of who you are and that disconnect will feel like static to send back to the universe while you ground and try again. There are a few chapters in the book that offer exercises I'd be happy to work through with you in coaching.
"Your song, should you be brave enough to sing it, will attract people who are searching for someone like you." -Ken Page